Chapter 2
When to call it a night
Review the following information and then answer the question below.
Before engaging in any sexual activity:
- Be sure that both of you are thinking clearly and alcohol isn’t clouding either of your judgment
- Get and give consent
The only way you can be really sure if someone is consenting is if the person says a clear yes – out loud.
It doesn’t matter how good you think you are at reading body language, if you are 99% sure that somebody else wants to be touched by you, or have sex with you, then you are not sure enough.
A drunken “yes” may not be consent.
We know that alcohol affects your ability to make decisions. It slows down the way your brain functions and impairs your judgment. This means you may have difficulty determining if your partner is really into it. It also makes it more difficult to tell if a potential partner is communicating clearly.
Is the alcohol affecting what they say?
Is alcohol affecting the way YOU interpret what they say?
When you need to STOP:
- You or the other person is intoxicated or high
- If either of you are not thinking clearly
- The other person is reluctant or becomes uncomfortable with the direction things are going
When sexual advances become assault or rape:
- The other person says no
- The other person is passed out
- The other person is not making a knowing and voluntary decision
Just remember it may be difficult to know if you have received consent.
Here are some situations where it could become assault or rape as consent may not be clear:
- The other person is silent
- The other person does not understand the fact, nature, or extent of the sexual situation
Self Check Question:
